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Oghowen, My mother's beloved. (Episode 1)

        Epa domo, I greeted Papa Ikpomwosa, our neighbour. Esosa, welcome, my son.Una don get holiday? The old man asked. Yes, Epa,  we are on Easter break. Oh-0h! exclaimed the old man, welcome home, my son. How body? Fine, Epa, I said and started walkinghome briskly, mama would be expecting me. I got home and called, Mama!Mama! Mama came out and when she saw me, I saw the joy on her face, she ran to hug me, and started shedding tears, I cleaned mama's tears and told her to stop crying. Indeed, the death of oghowen is taking its toll on mama, mama was no longer the lively woman she used to be, she was looking old and frail.       Our  father had died in a ghastly road accident when I was barely three years old, I don't have any memories of my father, mama was pregnant with oghowen. Papa's family members threw mama and I out of our home and mama had to be the only one fending for us. I grew up seeing mama as a very hardworking ...
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It's a popular belief that circumcised women cannot enjoy sexual intercourse. Well, today is the zero tolerance day for Female genital mutilation. Here are some tips on how a circumcised woman can enjoy sex with no pain and even reach orgasm.

Female genital mutilation [FGM] also known as Female circumcision is a cultural practise that have existed since time immemorial. Although, there are now  movements to stop this practise, it is still common in Asia, Middle east and some African countries like somalia, indonesia, Yemen and also the northern part of Nigeria.

FGM is of four types namely;
Type 1 also known as Clitoridectomy  and in this case, the clitoral hood is removed.

Type 2 also known as Excision. Here, there is a complete or partial removal of the inner labia with or without the removal of the clitoral glans.

Type 3 also known as infibulation. Here, there is the removal of the external genitalia and fusion of the wound.

The upholders of this culture do so because they think it ensures chastity but they end up bringing more harm to these girls. The effects of FGM range from infertility to chronic infections and inability to achieve sexual enjoyment.

The pain during intercourse is directly proportional to which stage of mutilation one went through, the higher the type, the more difficult sexual intercourse is. Although, it will not be an easy task to be able to enjoy sex after one has been mutilated, but with patience, it is achievable.

Here are the steps to follow:

1) Ensure to have a patient and understanding partner; A patient partner will take his time and let you take yours, this will enable the both of you get much more ready; both physiologically and psychologically for sex.

2) Ensure he is someone you are well attracted to and you have bonded with; Attraction goes a long way in turning on your mind and since orgasm is a process that begins with the mind, get your mind turned on first, baby girl!

3) Talk to your partner about your state; Don't keep anything away from him regarding your sexual state. Explain to him so he would know what and what not to do.

4) Stimulate your mind by reading some erotica; This will help you anticipate and set your mind to achieve orgasm. For better results, read with your partner.

5) Take a cold shower before settling on the bed; This will help stimulate your nerve endings and the cold would make you want to be touched.

6) Always possess a sexy mind filled with sexy imaginations; This will always keep your mind ready.

7) Once settled on bed, ensure proper stimulation before penetration; Make the foreplay a great one. You're the owner of your body, you know where turns you on well, it could be your neck, your feet, your nipples, make him concentrate more on this areas. You need a great deal of cuninlingus(Oral sex), feel comfortable to get it from him.

8) Woman, Know thyself!
Explore your own body, this will help you know where you want to be touched by someone else. Someone else might not be able to help you locate your G spot. Locate it by yourself and direct him to it. You can achieve maximum pleasure by getting your G spot stimulated.

9) Bin the shame!
One of the greatest problems to attaining sexual pleasure is shame! Not being able to communicate your sexual feelings and wants will pose a threat to your sexual enjoyment, don't be ashamed of what you want.

10) Free your mind from societal shackles; Don't continue to live in the pain of imagining that you can't enjoy sex as this would create a painful picture in your mind and this is what you will work towards. Chill, you can beat that! you can and you will!

I hope this has been of benefit to you in one way or the other. Share with your friends and drop your comments or questions. Thanks.

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