Epa domo, I greeted Papa Ikpomwosa, our neighbour. Esosa, welcome, my son.Una don get holiday? The old man asked. Yes, Epa, we are on Easter break. Oh-0h! exclaimed the old man, welcome home, my son. How body? Fine, Epa, I said and started walkinghome briskly, mama would be expecting me. I got home and called, Mama!Mama! Mama came out and when she saw me, I saw the joy on her face, she ran to hug me, and started shedding tears, I cleaned mama's tears and told her to stop crying. Indeed, the death of oghowen is taking its toll on mama, mama was no longer the lively woman she used to be, she was looking old and frail. Our father had died in a ghastly road accident when I was barely three years old, I don't have any memories of my father, mama was pregnant with oghowen. Papa's family members threw mama and I out of our home and mama had to be the only one fending for us. I grew up seeing mama as a very hardworking ...
You have to know when walk away from abusive relationships, from unprofitable relationships, from unyielding relationships, from unpromising relationships, from unfortunate relationships!!!
Listen to me, brother, if you ask a girl out and she keeps saying no, it means she doesn't like you, she doesn't want to be with you. No, it's not that she's testing your patience. She doesn't like you!!! Read the handwriting on the wall, when you call her and she doesn't pick it up nor return your calls nor apologise for doing so and it keeps repeating itself? I know you are in love but brother? You gotta respect yourself!
Are you in a relationship that is at the verge of breaking? And you are always the only one begging to keep the rope from cutting? Know it is time to walk away. You should stop begging anyone who doesn't care about losing you.
Yes, fight for your relationship, I know problems arise, and you gotta fight but if looking back, you realise you've been the only one fighting? Then, sweetheart, know it is time you invested your energy on more profitable things, on more promising things. A relationship where you are always under the threat of your partner leaving you is an unpromising relationship.
Are you trying to be friends with someone and they show no interest? I know it is cool to act like you really care about wanting them, you want to show how persistent you are, I know that. But I also know that you do not need to keep begging someone to be with you.
Like i said and I will still say, Love shouldn't come by force, you shouldn't beg anyone to love you. Try to save your relationship but know when to walk away. You deserve someone who values you as much as you value them and when they do not show you that part of them, know you have to pick a date so soon, a date when you'll walk away... Know when to walk away and stop allowing people maltreat you.
I shouldn't have shared this when it popped under posts I made a year ago on Facebook but I remembered that few weeks ago, I was in a taxi in Ilorin and these guys were telling themselves that getting married to many women was doing the women a favour because to them, women outnumber men, but that day, I was too weak to lecture anyone. From their accents, I knew they were literates but then, no one knows it all at all times and this is what happens when we have people who use a phone that can surf the internet but will be too concerned with calling bae upandan. So, this is a reminder if you are reading this and you feel same with those guys. I wrote this 365 days ago. You should give it a thought.
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Some people still think that getting married to a lady is doing her a favor, it's a wrong idea. No one is doing anyone a favor by getting married to them, it's an addition of love to both sides not subtraction of power from one and addition to the other..