Epa domo, I greeted Papa Ikpomwosa, our neighbour. Esosa, welcome, my son.Una don get holiday? The old man asked. Yes, Epa, we are on Easter break. Oh-0h! exclaimed the old man, welcome home, my son. How body? Fine, Epa, I said and started walkinghome briskly, mama would be expecting me. I got home and called, Mama!Mama! Mama came out and when she saw me, I saw the joy on her face, she ran to hug me, and started shedding tears, I cleaned mama's tears and told her to stop crying. Indeed, the death of oghowen is taking its toll on mama, mama was no longer the lively woman she used to be, she was looking old and frail. Our father had died in a ghastly road accident when I was barely three years old, I don't have any memories of my father, mama was pregnant with oghowen. Papa's family members threw mama and I out of our home and mama had to be the only one fending for us. I grew up seeing mama as a very hardworking ...
EMOTIONALLY LAZY MEN
"Never make the mistake of chasing a man, else, you'll make him emotionally lazy that he would feel he doesn't have to do anything to fulfill your emotional needs".
Who else has read that before? Do like this👆🏾. Now, put it down, let me tell you something.
First, how did you feel when you read that? Felt guilty for all the times you told a guy you loved him? Regretted to have done it? Felt like you could have waited for him to do it? Felt if you had waited for him to do it, he wouldn't have treated you that way? He would have cherished you better? Respected you more?
Now, I am a fan of Mr AmariSoul, the writer of that piece but I do not agree with him on that and here is why.
Nothing makes anyone emotionally lazy. Maybe something, but not the fact that someone loves them and is honest about she feels about them. Now, Mr AmariSoul is definitely saying that dear ladies, if you feel anything towards a man, bottle it up!
Maybe I don't know as much as Mr AmariSoul does on love matters but I know this very well and I am saying, dear ladies, you're human, you have feelings and as such, you have the rights to express them as long as in ways that are harmless.
An emotionally lazy man is an emotionally lazy man, love is something that will surface, no matter how hard you hide it, with time, it will surface. Now, when you eventually love him and show it to him, it doesn't matter how long he's been chasing you, he will become lazy because that's who he is; an emotionally lazy man!
Now, there is nothing you can do to help an emotionally lazy human. Being emotionally lazy simply means being emotionally lazy and when someone is emotionally lazy, it implies they do not love you. Because anyone who loves you will live up to it and that is the simple truth.
So, darling, he is not emotionally lazy because you love him, he is emotionally lazy because he doesn't love you. And when someone does not love you, learn to withdraw from loving them.
And always remember this, there is no greater love than being in love with the person who appreciates your love for them. People who hide under Mr AmariSoul's quote to become emotionally lazy are not mature enough to handle love relationships. Now, they are not just emotionally lazy, they are emotionally immature. And you shouldn't pour your emotions on emotionally immature men, they'll ruin your emotions for you.
Tell yourself this, you deserve who will up his emotional strength because he loves you. Anyone can be lazy, but love gives strength. Wait till you find that person who is willing to be emotionally strong for you!
So, all said and done, never be scared of making your good intentions known, never make disappointments make you give up on love, love can never be too late, it will come at its best time.
So, I hope you learnt something. Good morning and do have a wonderful Tuesday ahead.
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